Thursday, May 11, 2023

Musings about my almost empty nest and middle age (can you still be middle aged in your late 50s?)

 Funny I was thinking about how envious I was about having a whole amazing life ahead filled with possibilities and life's joys. And then I realized-I'm there right now. I can be excited now for whatever is around the corner. I have no career I'm trying to build, or bad dates to endure, or having to stay up late to complete a project. I'm down to just G to check his grades/feed him second dinner/nag to make sure he's turned in everything. I am at an amazing spot. I have time for walks, lunches out, sitting on the couch reading a great book. I don't have to be hustling for poster board at 9pm, or hunting down leotards or refereeing fights over how long someone has played with a special lego set. Instead of bemoaning how much I miss them being little (because that was f-ing hard, don't kid yourself) or feeling like I should have done "more" with my single days (travel, fulfilling career) I need to embrace the NOW. I can drink my coffee, and enjoy sunny walks with the dogs, and spend time learning with various apps and podcasts, and meet up for brunch with friends. What I wanted more than anything else: a happy marriage, a big family, a comfortable lifestyle where I don't have to buy things off the sale rack, lots of friends, a beautiful home: I've gotten all that. And I made that happen-don't think it just fell out of the sky.