I'm reading this book for book club and it's really annoying me.  I truly cannot believe that the author received such kudos for it and it's a best seller.  Biggest thing-this book is completely directed towards the 1% ers (of which I appear to be, and yet not) who live in either Silicon Valley, NoVa burbs or NYC burbs.  I don't think a lot of what she says pertains to most people.  I'm sorry-I don't know anyone in my circles who truly expects their kids to go to an Ivy League or a "name" school.   Also-she's laying the blame for this at the feet of the parents, while discussing 1)how schools are giving WAY too much homework-from elementary on up and 2)how difficult the college entrance process is.  Neither of these 2 MAJOR issues is the fault of the parents.  How about putting this back on our educators-at both the high school and college levels!!!  Yes, we over schedule and put our kids at the center of our universe.  But even in the examples of "how to discuss things with your kids" made me what to stab my eyeballs out: she's trying to teach you how to guide your child into analyzing what they're doing/thinking in such an obnoxious, precious way.  It's yet another way of trying to get your child to be The Best.  From a research point of view, I also think a lot of what she is complete tripe.  A lot of her "evidence" is anecdotal and examples from her own life and social circles.